Wednesday, September 10, 2014

How to Dominate Long Distance

Long distance domination is something that has become more and more prevalent in the BDSM world today than it ever has in the past. There are many Dommes who perform training sessions for their submissives and slaves that live anywhere from just minutes away to all the way around the globe without being physically present in front of the submissive itself. While long distance domination does present particular challenges for the Domme and her submissive, it can be accomplished well through the use of several different means and tactics.
Long Distance DominationOne of the most important aspects of any type of long distance domination is going to be trust. Unlike sessions that occur in the physical presence of the Domme, as the Domme you need to have complete trust in your submissive that he is going to follow through on his instructions and training without fault and report back to you correctly. In order for this training to have any type of effectiveness, the agreement must be one that is mutually consented to by both parties and the submissive needs to make sure he keeps up faithfully with his training in order for this to succeed.
Thanks to all of the technological advances that have occurred over the last twenty-five years or so, long distance domination is a much easier thing to accomplish for a Domme. There are many tools available to you and at your disposal thanks to the Internet, computers, cellphones, smartphones, tablets, text messages, web chats, instant messages, social media and the like. You can use any or all of these methods as ways to further the instruction and training of your submissive and keep in regular contact with him to make sure he is following through on everything.
Many Dommes who use long distance domination do a lot of their training through the use of particular assignments. Depending on the type of fetish your submissive may be involved in you can create particular assignments for him that you can send to him via e-mail, text message, voice mail or however you see fit. The submissive must then carry out those assignments and send you some type of proof that they have been accomplished, usually in the form of some type of message, photo or video that he can send you to document the event. In this way you can carry out training practices that are perfectly tailored to your specific submissive.
You can also have your submissive wear some type of jewelry regularly to show that he is owned by you all of the time, even if you are not present. This can be in the form of a ring, bracelet, necklace or even a collar. Have him get a piercing of some type so that he can wear something that reminds him of you. Many Dommes also make use of chastity devices in long distance domination so that they can be sure their slave is not disobeying her. Others may choose to have the submissive wear her underwear or silky panties every day as a constant reminder of his Domme.
If you think that your submissive is misbehaving or not following instructions, inform him that you are going to cut off communications with him as a form of punishment (for hours, a day, a week, or whatever timeframe is appropriate for the transgression). Most submissives cannot handle the thought of disappointing their Mistress or being out of contact with them and will do all that they can to make sure that they then follow their training regimen and assignments. You can also get your slave to perform punishments for you on a webcam so you can see that they are carried out, making him spank or flog himself in front of you or perform some other action as punishment.

While long distance domination can be difficult, it is certainly not impossible and is very attainable for most Dommes. It does take some time and input as well as the good use of your imagination to make sure that you can come up with regular assignments for the training of your submissive, but it also gives you the opportunity to try out some methods that you may not have normally come up with during a face-to-face session. With the right submissive and a trusting, consensual relationship, long distance domination can be a wonderful experience for both the Domme and her submissive.

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